Alrightey, so I’m sure you’re all wondering how the big NY move went.
Here’s your 10 sec, Top 10:
10. Blisters
9. Got sick — twice
8. Worked on the Times Square Forever 21 launch with Radar Entertainment (and smiled at the CEO of Forever 21!! — he smiled back!)
7. Don’t ever take a bus from Penn Station to DC on a Saturday
6. Delicious tappas in Flat Iron district
5. Rode on a motorcycle over the Manhattan Bridge
4. Got my first business suit
3. Had my first interview
2. Learned that walking anywhere in heels in Manhattan is virtually impossible
(drum roll…) 1. Saw Keanu Reeves — my 12yo girlhood dream came true!
When I left Atlanta, I was a pretty blue girl. I mean, I was crying virtually every day. I felt so out of touch with who I thought I was supposed to be, where I thought my career should be going and who I wanted to get there with. Truth be told, I was freaking sick of my business, sick of My Voice is Strong (mostly because my voice was totally weak) and sick of trying to make a blog out of my entire life.
I spent the last year doing freelance social media consulting with small businesses; a lot of which consisted of blog consulting. I’d read hundreds of blog posts and then tell biz owners how they can increase interaction with their readers by producing great content, writing about the juicy details of life and posing thought-provoking, but not too mind-boggling, questions to incite comments.
The result?
I started looking for “blog-worthy” moments every where in my life. Before I was even having a cool moment, I was thinking, how can I blog about this? And it pretty much sucked because I was never really present with my friends, with my colleagues or with myself. It’s prolly pretty clear to everyone else that’s a bit overkill. But when you look at blogs that work and blogs that are, well, boring, the ones that rock have all the juicy details.
Nonetheless, before I left Atlanta I vowed to myself that this summer I would do what the cool kids in NYC do and go “analogue.”
I would write in my journal.
I would listen to my iPod.
I would take video, but not publish it immediately.
I would sit on the bus and not check my BlackBerry every five minutes.
I would drink a glass of wine with my boyfriend on Friday night without feeling guilty I didn’t have a job.
I would totally unplug from who I thought I was supposed to be.
So I know this blog totally sucks. It has no juicy details and it’s pretty poorly constructed in terms flow and story direction, but I guess that’s what I meant for My Voice is Strong to be in the first place.
It’s a place where it’s okay to not have everything figured out yet, it’s okay to not be perfect and most of all, it’s okay F it up every once in a while.
Hope everyone is having a fun “I am not my blog” summer



Gina McNew
1 year ago
I LOVE you!!! Bethany…this is one of the greatest bits of writing I have read of yours…and I am very proud of you! Heels or no heels…you keep stepping forward and inspiring by walking your talk…if you can make it there…you’ll make it anywhere!!! AND…my money is on you!
Bethany
1 year ago
Beautiful, you’re one of the only reasons I live an inspired life. Thank you for all of your kind words, support and leading by example! You rock, girl.
Adrienne
1 year ago
Sounds like your living and growing however most of all staying true to yourself.
KayCie
1 year ago
That’s really awesome!!! You noticed you had a problem, and then figured out a way to solve it. There is nothing wrong with taking a step back and finding your “voice” again. That should be encouraged to a lot of people these days.
As you know, we are finally done with the wedding (thanks for being in it BTW!), and now I finally have “me” time again. We were so absorbed by it that I didn’t have time to read, write, or even watch TV. Now that it is over, we are making more time for friends and us time.
I’m so proud of all that you have accomplished, and you should be too!
ginger
1 year ago
Bethany, you are indeed so much more than your blog, but I fell in love with your words before I ever met you (You, Me and the Wii I think it was titled!) I love your virtual self, your powerful self, and your vulnerable self, too. Thanks for filling us in! As one of those social media clients (and more!), I know just what you mean. I am writing a blog in my head about 25 percent of the time! I remember earlier this year going to the Botanical Garden — just because my BF and I wanted to — and that’s when I realized my life cannot be a series of networking and see-and-be-seen events! LOVE YOU TONS for sharing … and just b/c you’re you!
Leighton
1 year ago
My IM conversation with the woman herself.
8:27pm Leighton
still reading it
…
8:27pm Bethany
k
8:27pm Leighton
“It’s a place where it’s okay to not have everything figured out yet, it’s okay to not be perfect and most of all, it’s okay F it up every once in a while.”
THAT is why I love being your friend
8:28pm Bethany
8:28pm Leighton
I also learned some things about you
8:28pm Bethany
??
8:29pm Leighton
for one, Keanu Reeves? lol
8:29pm Bethany
yeah. i was obsessed w him after speed and a walk in the clouds came out
8:29pm Leighton
I didn’t know you had been feeling so out of touch with yourself when you were here
8:29pm Bethany
yeah…really bad
i was getting really, really depressed
i felt like the sun was NEVER going to shine again
8:30pm Leighton
and I didn’t realize you were trying to blog everything instead of enjoying things
and you of course chose to deal with that on your own. lol
8:30pm Bethany
yeah, i did a good way of covering it up
8:30pm Leighton
though, I’m glad you did. you grew from it
you took me out dancing and drinking…a pretty good cover
dark rooms, loud music and alcohol will mask a lot
8:30pm Bethany
especially bc you can’t really tell people you are experiencing something with that you want to use the experience to make money
8:31pm Leighton
lol. I do wonder how I’d have reacted
8:32pm Bethany
or to tell the people that you are writing to, that you don’t really want to be blogging
8:32pm Leighton
that must have been hard
8:32pm Bethany
and that it takes a lot out of you to produce great content all the time
i mean, there’s a way to do it. writers do it all the time. i just have a tendency to go a little over board.
8:33pm Leighton
a little Bethany?
8:33pm Bethany
you know, bc it was my own biz and i wanted it to work soo bad, i was willing to blog about anything
8:33pm Leighton
when you go overboard, you go with full force
8:33pm Bethany
ikr
plus i was telling all my clients that their blogging needs to be more personable, people need to be able to connect with them more, which is REALLY hard to do when you’re not a trained writer
8:34pm Leighton
true
8:37pm Bethany
but i guess this just means that even though i wrote a pretty sucky blog, and didn’t think i got what i set out to accomplish, this exact conversation IS what i set out to accomplish. You know, thoughtful dialogue. So I guess I should give myself a break of having to produce great content all the time, bc it seems like i might be a natural
8:38pm Leighton
Isn’t that the point you made in your blog…when you stop thinking about writing a great blog, or living an exciting life so you can write a great blog about it, you actually get to do both
8:38pm Bethany
yeah…
8:38pm Leighton
you’re a great writer, who’s ridiculous and spontaneous…and who’s living in NY
8:38pm Bethany
ikr!!
8:38pm Leighton
I think that’s a blog that gets written by itself
8:38pm Bethany
Caroline Cox
1 year ago
It’s funny that I JUST read this, because I wrote a post similar to this last week on my Wayward Debutante blog. Being hyper-connected to everyone all the time is exhausting, isn’t it? Love when you can put things back into perspective, even if it’s just a little bit.

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